When Is God Going To Bring Me a Husband?

Before you panic...this is NOT ME!!

Recently, I had a conversation with someone about MARRIAGE.....she is young and wanting to get married so badly. I could feel her pain and angst over Jesus "making" her wait in her eyes.I tried to encourage her by tellng her that I was single for a long time(20 years to be exact)before I found Mr. Right For Me!  She literally gasped and said these words, "God would NEVER make me wait that long, would He?"  Over the years, I have had that response from several single women who were in their late 20's/early 30's and just rolled my eyes. I could have been offended but decided to be mature and not say anything but this time, I said something.

I looked at her and said, "Well that depends. Do you just want to be married OR do you want to marry the one that is best for you? If you want to just be married, you can manipulate that yourself! If you want to wait for God's best, then you have to be content and trust that the Lord you follow has your best interest in mind". She just looked at me with a look of confusion. I went on to explain to her that it is very easy to get married! It takes patience to wait for the right one!

After being married for almost 11 years now, there are quite a few reasons that I am glad I let Jesus lead the way and not myself.  Here are just FIVE of them!

1. I HAD the opportunity to get  married before and could have manipulated  my way into marriage. But, it just didn't feel right and there were red flags all over the place. Often, as women, we ignore those "red flags" and go through with it just to be married. In my experience, the people who I know did that, confessed later that they had these gut feelings that it wasn't right  and they ignored them. And they were paying the price.

2. I had so much freedom to serve the Lord. As a Christian, I was able to fully give to Him, my time, my financial resources and my full, undying love. I had fun serving the Lord and being single. It took me to places around the world that I would have never gotten to go.  Though I LOVE my husband and kids, I don't have that freedom anymore to take off to some foreign place or even give 100% here and am constantly torn between ministering to my family and to the people who come my way.

3. The man that I ended up marrying at 40(yes you heard me!)turned out to be just right for me! He is kind, he respects me, he honors me, he believes in me.
                                         I am a better person because of him.

4. Parenting our children together...I don't know if any of the men I knew before could have handled what we have gone through together with our sons medical and emotional issues. My hubby is "just the right man to parent these boys".
5. Most importantly, I met and married my best friend! He and I are "in sync" and though we have had our troubles of adjusting(this is his first marriage as well), we have the maturity now to stick it out and when we fall down..we get right back up...together OR help the other one up. No running away...in fact, in our vows, we made a promise before everyone to never let divorce be an option. We would always work it out. And so far....we are! And we will.

So, single ladies, the next time you think about whining(and I did do my share of it as a younger woman), ask yourself that question....do you just want to be married or do you want to marry the one that is best for you?   Sure it is lonely, sure you have a God-given desire to be married, sure you feel left out sometimes...but your Heavenly Father loves you more than anything. He DESIRES all of you...not just a part. And most of all, He wants the BEST FOR YOU!
So, in all seriousness, take it to the Lord and ask Him to continue to guide you and to help you be content in your current situation. I gaurantee that HE will lead you down the right path and no matter how long you think it might take, it will always be the right timing. TRUST HIM! He can be counted on......

"He who deals wisely and heeds [God's] word and counsel shall find good, and whoever leans on, trusts in, and is confident in the Lord--happy, blessed, and fortunate is he". Proverbs 16:20